THEORY THURSDAY: Movies & Compatibility

One of my friends retweeted this yesterday:

Although I’m not a certified movie buff, or in this case, a director, I still find this statement to be quite true. To be honest, I tend to judge people on their choice of literature or film. Don’t get me wrong, this was never really something I did consciously, it just became one of those things when I had a run-in with an obnoxious girl before, who gave off this vibe of being the Smartest Most Perfect Girl Ever. And then she mentioned that *so and so* was her favorite movie and I went all, *gape* Well, THAT explains a whole lot. It’s sort of analogous to when my friend tweeted something like, “Paano kita seseryosohin, eh naka-Crocs ka? (How do you expect me to take you seriously when you’re wearing Crocs?)” Or when my favorite professor mentioned how she judges people by their favorite Harry Potter book/movie — if you say Chamber of Secrets is better than Prisoner of Azkaban, FRIENDSHIP. OVER.

We all have those deal-breakers or personality indicators, and this just happens to be one of mine. Actually, everything that I mentioned above are, but this has got to be the main one. LOL. Why?

01. You get to gauge just how serious a person is. I remember my brother commenting before on how I don’t watch movies that don’t add anything substantial to my knowledge bank. I found this remark pretty surprising, a) because it came from my brother, whom I’ve always thought never really paid attention to my quirks (then I remembered he’s a Behavioral Science major o_o) and b) because it’s so freakin’ spot on! I tried watching The Hangover once before. Stopped midway. Stoner movies were never my thing.

02. You get to gauge just how logical a person is. Off the top of my head: Inception. V for Vendetta. In Time. The Time Traveler’s Wife. The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. The Butterfly Effect, The Hunger Games (?)… If you don’t get the logic or message behind sci-fi movies, well…

03. You get to gauge just how in-touch they are with their emotions. If Dobby’s death or Snape’s story in Deathly Hallows did not make you bawl like a freakin’ baby, or maybe Toy Story 3, or Marley & Me, or or or The Notebook, YOU ARE ONE. HEARTLESS. PERSON.

04. You get to see if you share the same sense of humor. I once went out with a guy who laughed at every scene of *this 3D animated movie*. The movie was funny, yes, but only at certain parts, so the excessive laughter definitely irked me. But then again, now that I think about it, I wasn’t really sure if his laughs were genuine or that he just wanted to give off the impression of being laid-back or whatevs. He might have overdone it a smidge, though. PROTIP: Always be yourself. Also, if you don’t share the same sense of humor, you probably won’t last (this applies to all types of friendships).

05. You get to see if you share the same aesthetic sensibilities (is this the right term? LOL). I had two friends who fought over Sucker Punch beforeFriend 1 didn’t get why Friend 2 liked the movie. Friend 1 claimed that the story wasn’t that good. They asked for my opinion and since I hadn’t watched it yet, I settled on asking for their list of favorite movies instead. LOL. Friend 1 listed pretty good movies while Friend 2 listed some pretty sappy ones. So I sided with Friend 1. And then I watched the movie. And I found that Friend 1’s claim was pretty spot on. From what I remember, it was total eye candy and the plot could have been pretty good, but the delivery was meh so everything got lost in the process. I guess it was really just one of those movies you had to watch for the mind-blowing CG. Like Green Lantern. πŸ˜›

I had another experience of this sort before. I went to watch 10,000 BC with someone back in college. It was the most horribly dragging film I had ever seen in my entire life. The person I was with thought it was good. Anyone out there who digs up the fossil that was our friendship, do give me a call!

So anyway, what are your thoughts on this theory of mine? Do share. Also, if you could recommend some good movies, that would be awesome! (Don’t worry, I won’t judge, LOL.)


  1. I loved this post! I can totally relate to what you mean [except the fact that I like some pointless movies every now and then but shhh] and I have to confess that, being a film-production major, I’ve done the same. I’ve judged people not only for the movies they like but by the way they talk about movies and realize that what they’re saying is totally off. But I’ve learned to be chill about it and I try not to pay too much attention to them. Very entertaining post.

    1. I like watching pointless movies too every now and then (especially when I’m with my friends). Although I still have a threshold for just how pointless. LOL. Thanks so much for dropping by! πŸ˜€

  2. Prisoner of Azkaban is my fave Harry Potter book, so I think we can be friends πŸ˜‰ Great post, Abby!

    1. Hurray for Prisoner of Azkaban! And hurray for Harry Potter! Hihi! Thanks so much, Rian! I absolutely love your blog. πŸ™‚

  3. Abby, this is so spot on! I once when on a date with a guy who laughed hysterically at Scary Movie while I didn’t care for the stupid humor. I knew after that night that it would never last and sure enough, it didn’t. It’s hard not to judge people’s tastes when it comes to movies and literature, but it’s usually a good sign when two people can agree.

    1. Seriously considering making an actual study out of it. This has psychological basis!!! Hahahaha. Thanks so much for visiting! πŸ˜€

  4. I love this post. I’m a movie lover and a Harry Potter obsessed fan, and I totally judge people by their favorite movies. It’s not that different from walking into someone’s house and seeing that they have shelves full of romance novels. I’m sure she’s a lovely person, but we won’t be good friends.

    1. And I love this reply! “I’m sure she’s a lovely person, but we won’t be good friends.”? It’s something I would totally say. Hahahaha!

  5. This is so true! I have two friends that always say, “Oh don’t see that movie because of such and such.” I immediately know I will LOVE the movie they are criticizing. Sometimes I wonder why we’re still friends….;)

    1. Maybe they’re both too awesome, sans the movies they like watching. Hihi. πŸ˜€

  6. If people don’t don’t understand what I mean when I say ‘You go Glen Coco’ I find it difficult to carry on the conversation! Great post! πŸ™‚

    1. Oh my gosh, I’d probably have a hard time too! And thanks! πŸ™‚

  7. Abby, so true, the movies that people prefer are an indicator of underlying personality traits

    1. Indeed they are! Thanks so much for visiting! πŸ˜€

  8. Years and years ago, I realized my friend and I had the same lame sense of humor as we both quoted parts of “Ace Ventura: Pet Detective”. We got married in October and one of my favorite things to do with him is LAUGH. πŸ™‚

    1. Aww, that is so cute! <3 I hope to find that one person someday who wouldn't mind having a Harry Potter-themed wedding. Haha!

      1. Haha, your movie compatibility test might help with that!

  9. Reminds me of the John Waters quote: β€œIf you go home with somebody, and they don’t have books, don’t f*ck ’em!” I’m not into movies (although I’m trying to catch up on the classics) so tend to make judgements about people’s book collection instead, and that tells me a lot. So yes, I agree with you.

    I watched “Citizen Kane” for the first time over the summer, and would have to recommend that to you as a great film.

    1. Oh, indeed, books too! But I still need to get myself out of children’s literature so my opinion on that is a bit limited. I guess my only basis would be if he said he didn’t like Harry Potter. OMG friendship never happened!

      I’ll definitely check that one out! Thanks! πŸ˜€

  10. Hey Abby, so glad I found your blog through Truth and Cake! Your post was the one above mine. πŸ™‚ And yes! I agree with your movie theory wholeheartedly. When I think about my favorite genres (kids movies, comedy, save-the-world Joss Whedon-esque stuff – okay, not a genre, but my fave) it pretty much serves as a personality profile. I already know that me and my beau are perfect for each other, and the fact that we both love watching the same type of TV series together just adds to that. πŸ™‚

    Current faves: Dollhouse (Joss Whedon…so good) and The Guild (super nerdy WoW series by Felicia Day). Both are TV series…gives you more time with the characters. πŸ™‚

    1. I love kids movies, comedy, and save-the-world Joss Whedon-esque stuff too! AVENGERS, FTW! Hihi. Oh, and I’ll definitely check those out! Thanks for visiting! πŸ™‚

  11. Interesting blog entry. Made me think about my deal-breakers. Aside from PoA (your favorite professor was spot on in that regard btw), I’d probably include the ff as well: the LotR trilogy, E.T., and Casablanca. Hate one or all of them and friendship is definitely under the bus.

    There are some unmentionables too, but I want to keep your page clean so I won’t mention them na lang. πŸ˜›

    1. Hihihihi I think I know one of those unmentionables! And yes, my favorite prof was very spot on!

  12. I remember the two of us going wild over High School Musical 3 because of how mind blowing the production was! Most people probably wouldn’t get it but I guess that’s the performer in us going crazy. :))

    1. Exactamundo! *apir* It also helps that Zac Efron is a hottie. HAHAHAHAHA!

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