Single Girl Diaries: Head or Heart?


My most favorite professor in the whole entire universe posed this question to me sometime ago: What would you rather be? Smart or in love? Me, being the idealistic person that I am, answered, “Smart AND in love.” Haha. Yeah. And she said it’s not possible to be both. In my head, though, the reason why I answered that is because that’s how I’ve been in the past. I’m in love like but on guard, if you get what I mean. (AND DING DING DING! THAT’S WHY I STILL DON’T HAVE A BOYFRIEND! [Oh yes, despite, over the past weeks, countless accusations and self-jokes about my being a lesbian, I’m sorry, I’m really not. LOL.])

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Anyway, the idea for this entry hit me the moment Favorite Prof asked me about it, but was only reinforced because of happenings as of late.

I relearned it’s really not possible to be smart and in love. Simple reasons/scenarios:

  • You act stupid when you do all these crazy things just to get the person you like to notice you.
  • You act stupid when you give meaning to everything your crush says/does.
  • You act stupid when you overanalyze why certain things are and aren’t in relation to your crush (technically, your ability to analyze means you aren’t stupid. It’s only stupid ’cause you could be doing something else, like saving the environment or reading Harry Potter).
  • You act stupid when you give a person complete power over your emotions.

I am so disappointed. And torn. But I’m still determined to find a balance between them. #PsychPower #YeahRight

I told a friend of mine recently that I have already found The One (and The Two and The Three, LOL), but that I won’t be doing anything about it anymore ’cause that’s just so 2008. Haha. I found myself breaking this for a couple days, though, but only so I could perform little Inception-y things. #PsychPower #YeahRight #ButYouBestBelieveIt

Call me cheesy but I believe in destiny. I believe that if it’s for me, it will happen (although we also have to do our part in making it happen). Let’s just say I’ve already done my part and I’m kind of frustrated ’cause I realized I was acting stupid while laying out all the ammunition. (Haha, whut!) So I’m done with the heart part, back to the head. Just waiting for things to fall into place.

This entry is so vague and scatterbrained. Tsk. I’ll come up with better ones next time. Kind of easing myself back into blogging. Haven’t done it in a month. @_@

So anyway, what would you rather be? Smart or in love?

13 comments

  1. Oh! What a coincidence! Hehee! Well, I quite agree that it should really be that way. I mean, whenever I’m ready. Does age really matter, though? Coz some are saying that I’m getting old to be still single. Someone even tease me to be a soon-to-be-spinster! A cousin once said that I might as well give it a go so as not to be too ignorant or to act stupid coz you don’t know how to handle it. She said that to experience it while you’re still young is better.

  2. I’m a 19yo girl. I never had a boyfriend. There were some boys who actually did court me. But I didn’t like any of them or I was never interested in them. I don’t know… I just felt like they didn’t have something that interest me or there wasn’t something special about them. Well, it just happens to pissed me off immensely when my aunt told me and my mother that she thinks I’m a lesbian and then she was like hahahaha! (Like, seriously???) I never heard something as ridiculous as that. And aslo, my friends or even relatives keep asking me why I don’t have a boyfriend… They were like… (Really?, At this age?, You’ve got to be joking!, No one courts you, I guess, Don’t tell me you’re more interested in girls? LOL, etc..)They keep on asking for reasons why I don’t have one. It’s like over and over again… and I was like how many times do I have to tell u that I NEVER had. I mean , what’s the big deal??? But still they keep on teasing me about being inexperienced about love…and I can never relate about it…and I’m actually missing a lot in life. I’m quite sick of it , really. It’s just that I don’t want to enter a relationship just because they all have one(even if I don’t love the guy), and feeling like in a rush because of my age. 🙁

    1. Oh my gosh, this is like, the FREAKIEST THING EVER. It was also my aunt who accused me of being a lesbian since I haven’t had a boyfriend yet (and I’m like, 5 years older than you). My friends know, though, that I’m just really picky so no accusations there. I like to joke that I SHOULD just be one, though, on the days that I feel emo and hopeless days. Haha.

      Anyway, you don’t need to enter a relationship just so you can relate or because you feel like you’re missing out. You’re not. Sure, it can be sad sometimes, but I feel like the sadness is only caused by the fact that everyone around you is acting all giddy and shizz ORRRRR because you’re in a situation where you feel like you don’t have a special someone around to talk to (like your best friend or your mom or whatevs). But it’s totally manageable so no need to hurry. Get into a relationship because you WANT to and because you’re READY, not because everyone’s doing it. 🙂

    1. Always nalang no comment. Madaya. Hihihihi!

      1. But ‘no comment’ IS a comment. And quite loaded, too ;p

        1. Sana may explanation kahit minsan. Better kung in the form of a blog. LOL!

  3. Semantics but I think it’s not “in love” you’re talking about there. That’s infatuation. :p I say it’s not possible to be smart and infatuated but it’s definitely possible to be smart and in love. 🙂

    1. Oh wow, I did make it sound like infatuation, didn’t I? Hahaha. I don’t think it’s the case with this one person, though (hard to explain without giving too much away). But yeah. Maybe you have to reach a certain “level” to know just how true this statement is. I guess for me, since I always pull myself back when I feel like I’m in too deep (this is not a THAT’S WHAT SHE SAID moment), I can only say this is true since this is what I see in my current situation. But I dunno… How can you be smart when you’re making yourself vulnerable? 😐

      1. Allowing vulnerability may just BE the smartest thing you do. No matter the outcome, you know you will come out of the situation a better individual. A state of vulnerability can only be character building. 😉

        1. Ohhh. Perspective. O_O

          1. Uh-huh. I rest my case and will shut up now and retreat back into my cave. LOL.

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