Gratitude


One habit I’ve been trying to develop the past few weeks is to say THANK YOU. Not that I don’t say it enough, because I do (probably even more than the average person does). It’s one of those things my mom has long instilled in us (and is apparently her #1 trait when I made her take this psychological test back when I was still in college). The habit I’m trying to develop, though, is saying THANK YOU to strangers I meet everyday who deserve gratitude but are often neglected because, well, what they’re doing is “part of their job”.

I think I came up with this idea when I was on the bus one time and the driver was all *VROOM* *SCREECH* *INSTANT BRAKE* the whole trip and I thought, when I get down, I’m going to go all, ‘Thanks, Kuya, for getting me safely to my destination’ complete with sarcastic tone. But then I thought, regardless if he’s a reckless driver or not, you do owe him for getting you safely to your destination. I mean, you could have died, but he wasn’t reckless enough for you to have to fear for your life. Somehow you still knew you were getting to where you wanted to go and you didn’t feel the need to call your loved ones to utter your final words.

And then there’s this one thing my friend posted on Facebook a couple days ago. He basically expressed his disappointment toward the people who rode the jeep and didn’t say thank you whenever they asked someone to forward their fare to the driver. That got me thinking again because, oh my gosh, I’m one of those people! *guilt* I never really paid much attention to it because, like I said, it’s already common practice and it’s basically “part of your job” to pass on your fellow passenger’s bayad. But then again not really, because you have the option to just stare at the person and have him crouch towards the front to hand over the bayad himself.

I’ve been testing this resolution out on tricycle drivers lately. The past few weeks, whenever I get off, I always make it a point to say thank you after handing in my fare. Awhile ago, though, I was caught off-guard. The driver beat me to it by saying thank you first! I’m making a big fuss out of this because it’s the first time in a VERY LONG TIME that I got a thank you from a tricycle driver. Some of the tricycle drivers in my village have attitude problems — maybe because they’re aware that I’m the one in need of their services. Although this is true, they’re also the ones in need of my money. They have a “boundary system”, you see, wherein they need to reach a certain amount in a day to give back to the owner of the tricycle they’re driving. If they earn extra, they get to keep it. That’s probably why drivers in our village prefer going on “special trips”. What they don’t realize is that they could earn more if they have 4 people ride and pay 8 pesos each than have 1 person ride and pay 20. Sometimes laziness makes you stupid.

But I digress. And lose my point entirely.

OH! WAIT! I remember now! Although it’s true that we are in need of their services, we can always wait for another (less annoying) tricycle (driver) to take us where we want to go. So yes, it’s our job to be pleasant to each other.

Anyway, moving on.

I guess I just feel like the world would be a much better place if people learned to be just a little more grateful. Twitter would definitely be less negative if people stopped complaining about how the air is too cold and instead thank God for even allowing us to experience such a temperature in this tropical country that we live in!

I feel like being grateful about even the most mundane things can make a huge amount of difference. It sure has for me.

Maybe if you say THANK YOU more often, Mr. Tricycle Driver would be less of a douchebag. Maybe if you say THANK YOU more often, Kuya Busboy won’t spit on your food. Maybe if you say THANK YOU more often, Kuya Magtataho will place more sago and sugar on your next taho order. Maybe if you say THANK YOU more often, your forever PMS-ing officemate would be less of a bitch. Maybe if you say THANK YOU more often, God (or the universe, whatever you believe in) will reward you and give you more things to be thankful about in the future. Maybe. 🙂

So there.

To you — THANK YOU for reading my brainfart of an entry. 🙂

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